I got this little gem at the I Heart Denver store and am still as in love with it as the day I saw it. I got it as I was struggling through college and was just really confused about where I was at in life, especially compared to where my peers were at in their lives. And that
was is the worst thing I could probably do: compare my life to someone else’s.
I now know that everyone goes through life differently and at different speeds so comparing your life to anyone else’s is just plain wrong. There is no comparison to the life you are living! But just knowing that to be true doesn’t actually make it any easier to do.
[Side note: I LOVE the I Heart Denver store. They carry unique, out-of-this world artwork done by local artists. I guarantee you’ll find something you just can’t live without, like I did. They have two brick-and-mortar locations in Denver; I went to the one off the 16th Street Mall and absolutely cannot wait for a chance to go back! This gorgeous print is by Lexis Krieg – you can also find her work on Etsy.]
Try scrolling through your Fb timeline and not having any type of emotional response (positive or negative) to someone else’s life-event post. Not possible. But it’s the negative emotional responses you have to watch out for. Right now for me, it’s engagement/wedding posts. I am in a serious, committed, long-term relationship but we are not engaged yet and it is so SO hard not to get down and upset about the fact that I don’t have a ring on my finger… not when this girl (who’s two years younger than me!) just got engaged and an old friend from high school is posting sneak peek photos from her wedding last weekend. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that I’m not engaged yet, I am completely comfortable and happy in my relationship, and yet here I am with these confusing negative emotions coursing through me because I compared my life to theirs. As if the life they’re living is right for me… it most definitely is NOT!
I keep this little piece of artwork and inspiration on my nightstand where I see it at the beginning and end of every day. Sometimes I look at it a lot harder than other times… sometimes I don’t look at it at all. But it is there, reminding me that the life I’m living is my own and no one else’s. Only I know what the right thing to do and when the right time to do it is, because what is right for someone else is not necessarily right for me, and vice versa. “You are exactly where you are supposed to be,” so live your life the way you want to live it. Do the right things for you, regardless of what everyone else is doing. There is no ‘wrong place’ to be and there is no comparison to your life, or anyone else’s for that matter, because everyone’s journey through life is unique. And that is part of what makes life so beautifully intriguing.